Thursday, February 15, 2018

Cupid's advice to Christian women about how to avoid abusive relationship #3

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Cupid's Advice #3: 

Don’t listen to what the bible got to say about the role of husband and wife. It is a load of crap.

You know how your bible says, your god is the one and only true god? That is a load of crap. You know how your bible says, the god of its religion is always right? That is also a load of crap. I know Yahweh is a jerk. He is obsessed with power, he is like the most jealous and possessive guy I have ever met in my entire life. But up here in heaven, in the world of the Gods, amount the gods, he is a dork, who cannot rule anything, so he goes down to earth to try rule over you guys instead. And the guy is such a jerk. Take a look at his bible.

“They entered into the covenant to seek the LORD God of their father with all their heart and soul and whoever would not seek the LORD God of Israel should be put to death, whether small or great, man or woman” (Chronicle 15:13)

Get my point? The guy is a jerk face. 

The rate of abuse towards women, is the highest, amount Christians, because a lot of Christian interpreted the teaching of the bible as the husband is the master and the wife is a slave, due to the bible believe a wife should in all way submit to her husband and infer the idea that a wife is the property of her husband, by saying she is a gift from Yahweh and despite the bible say not to be harsh with wife, it didn’t specify what it meant by harsh and there is even one passage that say, if a wife accidentally touch the penis of another man, the husband should chop off her hand. There is even a passage that endorses Christians to kidnap women and force her to be his wife against her will and then throw her out on the streets, when you get bored of her!

Well, here is the case, all of these teaching in the bible are bullshit, it is crap, it is none sense, so just ignore it.

Men, who believe in such Christian value of the husband is the master and wife is a slave, are more likely to be abusive. Think of it this way. All people have temper and can get angry, sometime, even the most mild temper person, could be pushed over the edge. Now, there are two guys, who are same in all other arena (kind of like twins), but the first guy believes a husband and wife relationship is a master and slave relationship, the second guy believe a husband and wife relationship is a partnership, which of the two guys, are more likely to abuse his spouse and which of the two guys, are more likely to hit his spouse, when losing his temper?

What the bible teach is a distorted idea about husband and wife, it take a basic human instinct and twist it into something problematic.

As a product of evolution, it is human instinct for all men wanting to be an alpha male and all women wanting to be with an alpha male. Despite what feminism say, it is still an evolution human instinct for women wanting a big strong men that can and will protect her, when needed.

This is because, for a man, been an alpha male mean security, for a woman, been with an alpha male, that can and will protect her, also mean security. Ideally, women can be an alpha herself, but, due to limitation in physical strength, in some arena, it is simply a bit difficult, unless she got specialist training. (especially during the cave men days) (in fact, for some girls, even the mood swings associate with PMS, can disadvantage them, because sometime especially in leadership role, you can't let your emotions get the better of you and without having to deal with PMS, it make it easier for guys to manage their emotions)

If you are not an alpha male, your best bet to get a girl is to be a good person, because, evolution has not led all girls be obsessed with alpha male, considering, just because he can protect you, does not mean he will and if he is a bad person, he probably more likely to hurt you, then to protect you. 

(I mean even girls who say they like bad boys, when we really understand it, it is actually, a type of style and attitude they like within men, which in western countries, it is very hard to find, amount good guys, but can only find amount guys who are not as good and even then, the girls learn to get over it, after a while, knowing all the guys that have that sense of style in the west, are not good people. As for guys, who still don't understand what I am saying, image you live in a country, where all the hot girls are evil, chances are you would learn to get over dating hot girls, also) 

But early Yahweh worshipers, mostly are neither good people, nor alpha male. 

If we use the teen movie stereotype to categorize men, we can put them into four brackets, 

(1) guys who got both the positive attribute of jocks and nerds, but none of the negative attribute, these guys, are the all round alpha males.

(2) the jocks, these guys are masculine, but not very smart, so they are physically alpha male, but psychologically beta male.

(3) the nerds, these guys are smart, but not masculine, so they are psychologically alpha male, but physically beta male.

In society we need both people who are masculine and people who are smart, especially considering the limited number of people who are both masculine and smart. For example, we need soldiers, who are masculine and we need doctors who are smart.  Then you got number 

(4)  guys who got both the negative attribute of jocks and nerds, but none of the positive attribute, these guys are all round beta male. 

And here is the catch, ancient Yahweh worshipers are the all round beta male, with the negative attribute of jocks and nerds, but none of the positive attributes. Early Israelites, are not very well educated, while their neighbor countries such as Rome, Greek and Persia, were very well educated, for those days, so early Israelites are not intellectually alpha male. In term of masculine alpha male, ancient Israel tried to invade its neighbor country Babylon, for worshiping different god and got their ass kicked and then conquer by the Babylonians and to end the threat of Israel launching another religion war, ancient Babylon try force Israelites to worship their gods, which considering, the reason they tried to invade Babylon is for worshiping other god, you can image been forced to worship Babylonian gods is quite an insult for the Israelites, then they were a colony of Persia and Rome, this does not exactly scream, masculine alpha male either. 

Now, if you are a beta male, your only chance of getting a girl is to be a good person, but they are not good people either. If we look at the bible, we find so many problematic teaching, within the bible and many early Israelites and early Christians practice it, some remain in practice, until the dark ages ended and even then, there are some that remain in practice, by some Yahweh worshipers, well into today (e.g. those angry Christians that wants to kill all gays and those middle eastern Taliban and ISIS that want to kill all none Muslims) Increase evidence has proven, the whole concept of Roman persecuting Christian never took place. In fact, Emperor Nero, which Christians accuse to be the biggest butcher of Christians, order Christians not to be touch unless they break the law. But, some early Christians did broke the law by practicing some problematic teaching of the bible, such as killing women who are not virgins or killing none believers and they were executed for it, just as any Christians today, would also be executed for practicing those teaching of the bible. In other word, it is kind of like a situation where, a group of gangsters got caught by cops for human trafficking and sex trafficking and arrested and then thrown into prison by the court, but these gangsters, still don't understand what they are doing is wrong, so, they start accusing what the cops and court to be doing as persecuting them. 

So, those early Yahweh worshipers they are not alpha male, they are all round beta male and they are not good people, of course they would have trouble getting a girl, they probably even lost some of their own women, to other men and there will be lots of girls, especially alpha girls, rather never been able to get married, then to marry one of these men who worship Yahweh. 

So, what did these people do? They try pressure women into marrying them, by saying it within their doctrine that it is a duty for a woman to wed. 

But even after pressuring a woman to marry him, there is another issues. Due to the evolution instinct of all men wanting to be alpha. Men normally wants to be the alpha in a relationship. This would be less as a problem, if the husband and wife in a relationship is the husband is an alpha and the wife is a beta. Even if both husband and wife are alpha, it could be less as a problem, because, he know what he is doing, so the wife, would let him be the alpha in the relationship. But when the husband is a beta, it is a very different story. 

Even more, it is an evolution instinct for human male to find a girl more desirable, if she is fit, healthy, smart, well educated and independent, because those are characters that help make a woman a better mother. But when a girl got those characters, it usually make them, alpha girls, rather then beta girls. It is already hard for a beta male, to get an alpha girl and if he is a jerk, it just make it even harder. And if by some miracle he got an alpha girl, to be his wife, even beta girl got no reason to submit to a beta male husband, why on earth would an alpha girl be submissive to a beta male husband? Plus, the fact you are a beta male and she is an alpha girl, give you some pretty good reason to feel intimidated, as a married couple, because, men wants to be alpha, women wants to be with alpha, but here it is reversal, she is an alpha, you are a beta. 

Normally, decent people, if a marriage between an alpha girl and a beta male took place, he would do what he can, to try make himself also an alpha male, he would work hard to be more successful, he would go to night school to get better educated, he would work harder to make more money, even if she don't care he is a beta male.  Plus, if he really like her, he want her to be with a man, worthy of an alpha girl, so he would want to, do his best, to become an alpha male. 

But, because, early followers of Yahweh, are not good people, instead of trying to raise their status, to alpha male status, as best as they could. They simply infer the idea that husband is like a master and wife is like a slave, by inferring an idea a wife is the property of the husband and saying wife must be in all ways submissive, to maintain his alpha status in the relationship. 

And if you think, all ancient teaching suppress women, like that, you are also wrong. For example, Chinese philosopher Confucius, is a self proclaim womanizer and misogynist, yet, when teaching his students, he once praise the King of Zhou, for willing to use a woman, to be one of his top ten senior ministers, saying that it is wise for the King to be willing to use, any person who is the best person for the job, to become a senior government official, even if that person is a woman and despite there is a rumor that in his book, Confucius, claim women are not worthy of education, there is actually no passage that says it, only saying that some women can be hard to deal with, due to the mood swings associated with PMS. 

Example of the bible inferring an idea that husband is the master and wife is a slave, include.

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." (Ephesians 5:22-24)


And "House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers. But a prudent wife is from the LORD" (Proverbs 19:14)

And a further example of, instead of trying to become an alpha, so they are worthy for his wife to listen to, they just try to force them, to let him been alpha and if they some how got lucky and got an alpha girl, instead of trying to become as close to been an alpha male as possible, so the relationship won't be he is a beta and she is an alpha. They just try to force, girls to be beta.

"Let the women learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression." (I Timothy 2:11-14)


So, in regards to what the bible say about a woman must get marry and the husband and wife relationship is like the husband is a master and wife is like a slave, just ignore everything the bible tell you. (I mean seriously, imagine your brain is a computer running on windows, now click on the file that record this bible teaching, then click delete and then go the recycle bin and delete it from the recycle bin also.)

So, what is a true husband and wife relationship is suppose to be like? 

First, it is mutual respect. The rest, it is up to the two of you, whatever work for you, work for you two, whatever does not work for you two, does not work for you two. 
But whatever that relationship, it is suppose to be something, both parties involved are able to accept and approve of

And because, it is mutual respect, the husband cannot demand his wife to be submissive against her will, if she is to be submissive, it must be out of her own free will, you can't force her to be submissive. 

Cupid's advice to Christian women about how to avoid abusive relationship #2



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Cupid's Advice Number 2: 

This not only apply to Christian women, but all western women. STOP OBSESSING WITH FAIRYTALE ROMANCE! A lot of western girls are obsessed with fairy tale romance. They believe true love and true happiness for a woman is fairy tale romance. As a result, they become obsessed with fairy tale romance, to the extend, where if they believe they find, what they consider to be a fairy tale romance, in a relationship, they become obsessed with it and would even stay in that abusive relationship, just for the fairy tale romance.

So, advice number 2, fairy tale romance, does not mean happily ever after. Fairy tale is created to reinforce Christian values, it always ended with the sentence of “Snow white and the prince live happily ever after”, “Cinderella and the prince live happily ever after” or “blah, blah, blah and the prince live happily ever after” but the fairy tale never tell you, why it is happily ever after. Why? Because fairy tale romance, does not necessary mean happily ever after. I am not going to say “fairy tale romance, cannot mean happily ever after” like some experts says, because, I believe every girl have a different idea of what a fairy tale romance is like (although, they are usually more or less the same) and I am not going to say whether that idea of fairy tale romance, could lead to happily ever after. I am just going to tell you, fairy tale romance, does not necessary mean happily ever after and when a girl is obsessed with fairy tale romance, a lot of time, she finds herself in abusive relationship, because, she is so obsessed with the fairy tale romance characteristic of the relationship, she put up with the abuse and go into denial, refusing to believe she is in an abusive relationship.

So, once again STOP OBSESSING WITH FAIRYTALE ROMANCE!

Once again, it is written in the cosmos, if your happily ever after, meant to be a fairy tale romance, it will become a fairy tale romance. If it is not meant to be a fairy tale romance, then it won’t be a fairy tale romance, you struggle and insisting on finding a fairy tale romance and staying in a fairy tale romance, under the circumstances, won’t bring you any real happiness, it would only bring you pain.
There is nothing wrong about wanting fairy tale romance, but what is even more important is not to obsessed with it and learn to let go. Otherwise, even when your true happily ever after come knocking on your door, you would probably miss out, because you are obsessed about fairy tale romance.

(PS: And what if there are kids involve, do you really want your children to grow up in an abusive household? That is call been a bad mother, if you still keep lying to yourself saying you are not been abuse and is happy and stay in this relationship, due to your obsession)

(PPS: Even when it is not an abusive relationship. When you become obsessed with fairy tale romance and keep lying to yourself, you have found true love and happiness, because of it. You are neither been fair to yourself or him, because you are lying to both yourself and to him, especially if the truth is, you are not happy in this relationship and you don’t really love him. It is no different to a girl who lie about been in love with a guy, where in reality, she is just with him for the money or a guy, who lie to a girl about wanting a commitment just to get in her pants and dump her the next day, because those people are cheating the feelings of others, to get what they want. When you lie to yourself that you have found true love and true happiness, because this relationship resembles what you image fairy tale romance is, when you are actually unhappy, you are lying to yourself and cheating yourself and if this relationship isn’t abusive, then you are also cheating that other guy, because you led him to believe, he is with somebody who love him and wants to be with him, for real. It is not fair to either of you or him)



Cupid's advice to Christian women about how to avoid abusive relationship #1


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Cupid's Advice Number 1

The biggest flaw of Christian women is they are so desperate to have a man, many would put up with abuse, just to have a man. Because the teaching of their religion believes it is wrong for a woman to be single.

So, advice number one, the teaching of your bible is wrong. There is nothing wrong about been single. And it is better to be single and wait for the right guy to come along, then to be in an abusive relationship. And even if you cannot find Mr. Right, it better to be single and have a life, then to be in a relationship with somebody that is abusive. As for the fear of having no kids to take care of you when you get old…I got a secret for you, I invented sperm banks just for those girls who wants a baby, but can’t find Mr. Right!

(Once upon a time, when you are not ready for sperm bank technology, I invented polygamy, now, you are ready for this technology, I am using sperm banks, which work better, to replace polygamy) 

Your destiny and your true love, is in the grand design of the cosmos. If something is meant to be your's, it is your, if something that is not meant to be your, it is not meant to be your and obsess about trying to force something not your, to become your, can only cause you pain and lead you to miss out, on all those beautiful things out there that is your and let all the happiness, you got, slide through your finger and pass you by.

It is alright for a girl wanting to have a man, but don't be obsess with it, when it is time to let go, it is time to let go. 

(PS: And here is a secret, good girls who are patient and not obsess with having a man, got a better chance to find Mr. Right. Girls that are not patient and jump on board with the first guy she find and so obsess with having a man, she is afraid to break up, when the relationship is not right, are lease likely to find Mr. Right and more likely to end up in abusive relationships, because more often then less, your Mr. Right is not the first guy that comes along, when you are single, he might even be somebody who comes along, when you are desperately clinching onto a relationship, just to have a man and the first guy that comes along or that relationship you are so desperate to clinch onto, due to the fear of having no man, might turn out to be abusive)

(PPS: Even when a relationship is not abusive, clinching onto a relationship that is not right, just to have a man, is unfair to both you and your partner. Because you deserve to be with somebody you want to be with, somebody you are happy to be with and your partner, deserve to be with somebody, who is with him, because she wants to be with him, not somebody who is with him, simply because she is afraid to be single.)

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According to many pagan religion, including modern pagan religion such as Chinese Daoism, the following is how to communicate with the gods, to ask the god a question and for guidance.

1.  
      The question must be phrase in a yes and no format. First ask the god your question in a yes or no format, within a prayer, place two coins, when you are pray put your hands together and place two coins between your palms, afterwards, open your palm and let the coins drop.

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      After the coins drop, if you see both drop coins’ head facing up or both drop coins’ tail facing up, it means the god says no or the god is not answering. But, if one drop coin got a head facing up and the other drop coin got a tail facing up, repeat this same exercise for a second time.

3.
     After the coins drop for a second time, if you see both drop coins’ head facing up or both drop coins’ tail facing up, it means the god says no or the god is not answering. If you see one drop coin got a head facing up and the other drop coin got a tail facing up, repeat this same exercise a third time

4.     
  After the coins drop for a third time, if you see both drop coins’ head facing up or both drop coins’ tail facing up, it means the god says no or the god is not answering. If you see one dropped coin got a head facing up and one drop coin got the tail facing up, it means the god says “YES”

(Statistically, speaking to get one-coin head facing up and one-coin tail facing up, is 50%, but to get that same result, 3 times in a row…the chance is only 1/8)

Most Eastern religions believe, the gods and demons of all religions to be the same, but base on the interpretation of different culture, they took on different forms, in different culture. Thus, the same Chinese Daoism technique work for the pagan gods, of all religions and can be used to ask question to the pagan god of all religion, regardless of Hindu, Chinese, ancient Greek, ancient Roman, ancient Egyptian gods etc.

Usually in Daoism temple they use the instrument as shown in the image below, which also got a head side and a tail side. But when such instrument does not exist, 2 coins can also be used. 





In the video above, a short piece about a mistress of a wealthy man, going to a temple of the god of love located in Taiwan, hoping that her boy friend would divorce his wife, so they could get married. The girl was in the temple, trying to get the approval of the gods dropping the pieces for over 20 times and for 20 minutes straight, she cannot even get one drop, with piece having its head facing up and the other piece having its head facing down.




Sometime after writing this article, I actually, used this Chinese Daoism technique to ask the Roman God Cupid, whether he agree with this advice and want to make this an advice he gives to Christian women and for 3 times in a row, my dropped coins got one coin having its head facing up and one coin having its tail facing up. (and this is my very first attempt, to ask Cupid this question) So, from a religious point of view, you can consider this to be a genuine advice, from the ancient Roman God Cupid.

Saturday, February 10, 2018

Cupid's advice to Christian women about how to avoid abusive relationship

Hi, I am cupid :)
My Resume...oh, I don't know just the god of love, marriage and relationship for at least the last 2000 years?



Cupid's Advice Number 1

The biggest flaw of Christian women is they are so desperate to have a man, many would put up with abuse, just to have a man. Because the teaching of their religion believes it is wrong for a woman to be single.

So, advice number one, the teaching of your bible is wrong. There is nothing wrong about been single. And it is better to be single and wait for the right guy to come along, then to be in an abusive relationship. And even if you cannot find Mr. Right, it better to be single and have a life, then to be in a relationship with somebody that is abusive. As for the fear of having no kids to take care of you when you get old…I got a secret for you, I invented sperm banks just for those girls who wants a baby, but can’t find Mr. Right!

(Once upon a time, when you are not ready for sperm bank technology, I invented polygamy, now, you are ready for this technology, I am using sperm banks, which work better, to replace polygamy) 

Your destiny and your true love, is in the grand design of the cosmos. If something is meant to be your's, it is your, if something that is not meant to be your, it is not meant to be your and obsess about trying to force something not your, to become your, can only cause you pain and lead you to miss out, on all those beautiful things out there that is your and let all the happiness, you got, slide through your finger and pass you by.

It is alright for a girl wanting to have a man, but don't be obsess with it, when it is time to let go, it is time to let go. 

(PS: And here is a secret, good girls who are patient and not obsess with having a man, got a better chance to find Mr. Right. Girls that are not patient and jump on board with the first guy she find and so obsess with having a man, she is afraid to break up, when the relationship is not right, are lease likely to find Mr. Right and more likely to end up in abusive relationships, because more often then less, your Mr. Right is not the first guy that comes along, when you are single, he might even be somebody who comes along, when you are desperately clinching onto a relationship, just to have a man and the first guy that comes along or that relationship you are so desperate to clinch onto, due to the fear of having no man, might turn out to be abusive)

(PPS: Even when a relationship is not abusive, clinching onto a relationship that is not right, just to have a man, is unfair to both you and your partner. Because you deserve to be with somebody you want to be with, somebody you are happy to be with and your partner, deserve to be with somebody, who is with him, because she wants to be with him, not somebody who is with him, simply because she is afraid to be single.)




Cupid's Advice Number 2: 

This not only apply to Christian women, but all western women. STOP OBSESSING WITH FAIRYTALE ROMANCE! A lot of western girls are obsessed with fairy tale romance. They believe true love and true happiness for a woman is fairy tale romance. As a result, they become obsessed with fairy tale romance, to the extend, where if they believe they find, what they consider to be a fairy tale romance, in a relationship, they become obsessed with it and would even stay in that abusive relationship, just for the fairy tale romance.

So, advice number 2, fairy tale romance, does not mean happily ever after. Fairy tale is created to reinforce Christian values, it always ended with the sentence of “Snow white and the prince live happily ever after”, “Cinderella and the prince live happily ever after” or “blah, blah, blah and the prince live happily ever after” but the fairy tale never tell you, why it is happily ever after. Why? Because fairy tale romance, does not necessary mean happily ever after. I am not going to say “fairy tale romance, cannot mean happily ever after” like some experts says, because, I believe every girl have a different idea of what a fairy tale romance is like (although, they are usually more or less the same) and I am not going to say whether that idea of fairy tale romance, could lead to happily ever after. I am just going to tell you, fairy tale romance, does not necessary mean happily ever after and when a girl is obsessed with fairy tale romance, a lot of time, she finds herself in abusive relationship, because, she is so obsessed with the fairy tale romance characteristic of the relationship, she put up with the abuse and go into denial, refusing to believe she is in an abusive relationship.

So, once again STOP OBSESSING WITH FAIRYTALE ROMANCE!

Once again, it is written in the cosmos, if your happily ever after, meant to be a fairy tale romance, it will become a fairy tale romance. If it is not meant to be a fairy tale romance, then it won’t be a fairy tale romance, you struggle and insisting on finding a fairy tale romance and staying in a fairy tale romance, under the circumstances, won’t bring you any real happiness, it would only bring you pain.
There is nothing wrong about wanting fairy tale romance, but what is even more important is not to obsessed with it and learn to let go. Otherwise, even when your true happily ever after come knocking on your door, you would probably miss out, because you are obsessed about fairy tale romance.

(PS: And what if there are kids involve, do you really want your children to grow up in an abusive household? That is call been a bad mother, if you still keep lying to yourself saying you are not been abuse and is happy and stay in this relationship, due to your obsession)

(PPS: Even when it is not an abusive relationship. When you become obsessed with fairy tale romance and keep lying to yourself, you have found true love and happiness, because of it. You are neither been fair to yourself or him, because you are lying to both yourself and to him, especially if the truth is, you are not happy in this relationship and you don’t really love him. It is no different to a girl who lie about been in love with a guy, where in reality, she is just with him for the money or a guy, who lie to a girl about wanting a commitment just to get in her pants and dump her the next day, because those people are cheating the feelings of others, to get what they want. When you lie to yourself that you have found true love and true happiness, because this relationship resembles what you image fairy tale romance is, when you are actually unhappy, you are lying to yourself and cheating yourself and if this relationship isn’t abusive, then you are also cheating that other guy, because you led him to believe, he is with somebody who love him and wants to be with him, for real. It is not fair to either of you or him)

Cupid's Advice Number 3: 

Don’t listen to what the bible got to say about the role of husband and wife. It is a load of crap.

You know how your bible says, your god is the one and only true god? That is a load of crap. You know how your bible says, the god of its religion is always right? That is also a load of crap. I know Yahweh is a jerk. He is obsessed with power, he is like the most jealous and possessive guy I have ever met in my entire life. But up here in heaven, in the world of the Gods, amount the gods, he is a dork, who cannot rule anything, so he goes down to earth to try rule over you guys instead. And the guy is such a jerk. Take a look at his bible.

“They entered into the covenant to seek the LORD God of their father with all their heart and soul and whoever would not seek the LORD God of Israel should be put to death, whether small or great, man or woman” (Chronicle 15:13)

Get my point? The guy is a jerk face. 

The rate of abuse towards women, is the highest, amount Christians, because a lot of Christian interpreted the teaching of the bible as the husband is the master and the wife is a slave, due to the bible believe a wife should in all way submit to her husband and infer the idea that a wife is the property of her husband, by saying she is a gift from Yahweh and despite the bible say not to be harsh with wife, it didn’t specify what it meant by harsh and there is even one passage that say, if a wife accidentally touch the penis of another man, the husband should chop off her hand. There is even a passage that endorses Christians to kidnap women and force her to be his wife against her will and then throw her out on the streets, when you get bored of her!

Well, here is the case, all of these teaching in the bible are bullshit, it is crap, it is none sense, so just ignore it.

Men, who believe in such Christian value of the husband is the master and wife is a slave, are more likely to be abusive. Think of it this way. All people have temper and can get angry, sometime, even the most mild temper person, could be pushed over the edge. Now, there are two guys, who are same in all other arena (kind of like twins), but the first guy believes a husband and wife relationship is a master and slave relationship, the second guy believe a husband and wife relationship is a partnership, which of the two guys, are more likely to abuse his spouse and which of the two guys, are more likely to hit his spouse, when losing his temper?

What the bible teach is a distorted idea about husband and wife, it take a basic human instinct and twist it into something problematic.

As a product of evolution, it is human instinct for all men wanting to be an alpha male and all women wanting to be with an alpha male. Despite what feminism say, it is still an evolution human instinct for women wanting a big strong men that can and will protect her, when needed.

This is because, for a man, been an alpha male mean security, for a woman, been with an alpha male, that can and will protect her, also mean security. Ideally, women can be an alpha herself, but, due to limitation in physical strength, in some arena, it is simply a bit difficult, unless she got specialist training. (especially during the cave men days) (in fact, for some girls, even the mood swings associate with PMS, can disadvantage them, because sometime especially in leadership role, you can't let your emotions get the better of you and without having to deal with PMS, it make it easier for guys to manage their emotions)

If you are not an alpha male, your best bet to get a girl is to be a good person, because, evolution has not led all girls be obsessed with alpha male, considering, just because he can protect you, does not mean he will and if he is a bad person, he probably more likely to hurt you, then to protect you. 

(I mean even girls who say they like bad boys, when we really understand it, it is actually, a type of style and attitude they like within men, which in western countries, it is very hard to find, amount good guys, but can only find amount guys who are not as good and even then, the girls learn to get over it, after a while, knowing all the guys that have that sense of style in the west, are not good people. As for guys, who still don't understand what I am saying, image you live in a country, where all the hot girls are evil, chances are you would learn to get over dating hot girls, also) 

But early Yahweh worshipers, mostly are neither good people, nor alpha male. 

If we use the teen movie stereotype to categorize men, we can put them into four brackets, 

(1) guys who got both the positive attribute of jocks and nerds, but none of the negative attribute, these guys, are the all round alpha males.

(2) the jocks, these guys are masculine, but not very smart, so they are physically alpha male, but psychologically beta male.

(3) the nerds, these guys are smart, but not masculine, so they are psychologically alpha male, but physically beta male.

In society we need both people who are masculine and people who are smart, especially considering the limited number of people who are both masculine and smart. For example, we need soldiers, who are masculine and we need doctors who are smart.  Then you got number 

(4)  guys who got both the negative attribute of jocks and nerds, but none of the positive attribute, these guys are all round beta male. 

And here is the catch, ancient Yahweh worshipers are the all round beta male, with the negative attribute of jocks and nerds, but none of the positive attributes. Early Israelites, are not very well educated, while their neighbor countries such as Rome, Greek and Persia, were very well educated, for those days, so early Israelites are not intellectually alpha male. In term of masculine alpha male, ancient Israel tried to invade its neighbor country Babylon, for worshiping different god and got their ass kicked and then conquer by the Babylonians and to end the threat of Israel launching another religion war, ancient Babylon try force Israelites to worship their gods, which considering, the reason they tried to invade Babylon is for worshiping other god, you can image been forced to worship Babylonian gods is quite an insult for the Israelites, then they were a colony of Persia and Rome, this does not exactly scream, masculine alpha male either. 

Now, if you are a beta male, your only chance of getting a girl is to be a good person, but they are not good people either. If we look at the bible, we find so many problematic teaching, within the bible and many early Israelites and early Christians practice it, some remain in practice, until the dark ages ended and even then, there are some that remain in practice, by some Yahweh worshipers, well into today (e.g. those angry Christians that wants to kill all gays and those middle eastern Taliban and ISIS that want to kill all none Muslims) Increase evidence has proven, the whole concept of Roman persecuting Christian never took place. In fact, Emperor Nero, which Christians accuse to be the biggest butcher of Christians, order Christians not to be touch unless they break the law. But, some early Christians did broke the law by practicing some problematic teaching of the bible, such as killing women who are not virgins or killing none believers and they were executed for it, just as any Christians today, would also be executed for practicing those teaching of the bible. In other word, it is kind of like a situation where, a group of gangsters got caught by cops for human trafficking and sex trafficking and arrested and then thrown into prison by the court, but these gangsters, still don't understand what they are doing is wrong, so, they start accusing what the cops and court to be doing as persecuting them. 

So, those early Yahweh worshipers they are not alpha male, they are all round beta male and they are not good people, of course they would have trouble getting a girl, they probably even lost some of their own women, to other men and there will be lots of girls, especially alpha girls, rather never been able to get married, then to marry one of these men who worship Yahweh. 

So, what did these people do? They try pressure women into marrying them, by saying it within their doctrine that it is a duty for a woman to wed. 

But even after pressuring a woman to marry him, there is another issues. Due to the evolution instinct of all men wanting to be alpha. Men normally wants to be the alpha in a relationship. This would be less as a problem, if the husband and wife in a relationship is the husband is an alpha and the wife is a beta. Even if both husband and wife are alpha, it could be less as a problem, because, he know what he is doing, so the wife, would let him be the alpha in the relationship. But when the husband is a beta, it is a very different story. 

Even more, it is an evolution instinct for human male to find a girl more desirable, if she is fit, healthy, smart, well educated and independent, because those are characters that help make a woman a better mother. But when a girl got those characters, it usually make them, alpha girls, rather then beta girls. It is already hard for a beta male, to get an alpha girl and if he is a jerk, it just make it even harder. And if by some miracle he got an alpha girl, to be his wife, even beta girl got no reason to submit to a beta male husband, why on earth would an alpha girl be submissive to a beta male husband? Plus, the fact you are a beta male and she is an alpha girl, give you some pretty good reason to feel intimidated, as a married couple, because, men wants to be alpha, women wants to be with alpha, but here it is reversal, she is an alpha, you are a beta. 

Normally, decent people, if a marriage between an alpha girl and a beta male took place, he would do what he can, to try make himself also an alpha male, he would work hard to be more successful, he would go to night school to get better educated, he would work harder to make more money, even if she don't care he is a beta male.  Plus, if he really like her, he want her to be with a man, worthy of an alpha girl, so he would want to, do his best, to become an alpha male. 

But, because, early followers of Yahweh, are not good people, instead of trying to raise their status, to alpha male status, as best as they could. They simply infer the idea that husband is like a master and wife is like a slave, by inferring an idea a wife is the property of the husband and saying wife must be in all ways submissive, to maintain his alpha status in the relationship. 

And if you think, all ancient teaching suppress women, like that, you are also wrong. For example, Chinese philosopher Confucius, is a self proclaim womanizer and misogynist, yet, when teaching his students, he once praise the King of Zhou, for willing to use a woman, to be one of his top ten senior ministers, saying that it is wise for the King to be willing to use, any person who is the best person for the job, to become a senior government official, even if that person is a woman and despite there is a rumor that in his book, Confucius, claim women are not worthy of education, there is actually no passage that says it, only saying that some women can be hard to deal with, due to the mood swings associated with PMS. 

Example of the bible inferring an idea that husband is the master and wife is a slave, include.

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." (Ephesians 5:22-24)


And "House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers. But a prudent wife is from the LORD" (Proverbs 19:14)

And a further example of, instead of trying to become an alpha, so they are worthy for his wife to listen to, they just try to force them, to let him been alpha and if they some how got lucky and got an alpha girl, instead of trying to become as close to been an alpha male as possible, so the relationship won't be he is a beta and she is an alpha. They just try to force, girls to be beta.

"Let the women learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression." (I Timothy 2:11-14)


So, in regards to what the bible say about a woman must get marry and the husband and wife relationship is like the husband is a master and wife is like a slave, just ignore everything the bible tell you. (I mean seriously, imagine your brain is a computer running on windows, now click on the file that record this bible teaching, then click delete and then go the recycle bin and delete it from the recycle bin also.)

So, what is a true husband and wife relationship is suppose to be like? 

First, it is mutual respect. The rest, it is up to the two of you, whatever work for you, work for you two, whatever does not work for you two, does not work for you two. 
But whatever that relationship, it is suppose to be something, both parties involved are able to accept and approve of

And because, it is mutual respect, the husband cannot demand his wife to be submissive against her will, if she is to be submissive, it must be out of her own free will, you can't force her to be submissive. 

The wife on the other hand, I know the mood swings associate with PMS, might make it harder to manage your emotions, but that is no excuse to lash out and you still need to manage those mood swings, as best as you can, PMS, is not an excuse to be irrational and unreasonable. 


NEWS PAPER ARTICLE:

'Submit to your husband' Women told to endure domestic violence in the name of God


Research shows that the men most likely to abuse their wives are evangelical Christians who attend church sporadically. Church leaders in Australia say they abhor abuse of any kind. But advocates say the church is not just failing to sufficiently address domestic violence, it is both enabling and concealing it.

Written by Julia Baird with Hayley Gleeson

ABC News


Cupid's Advice Number 4:

Stop worrying so much about rate of domestic abuse in the none western world and worry more about yourself. 

Despite the western world pride itself to be treating women the best, in reality most of our western stereotypical view, of how the none west treat women, are nothing more other then racist stereotypes, create by racist people and then promoted to the rest of the western world and the naive general public got manipulated. And in reality, Christianity got the highest rate of abuse towards women, in the world and with the highest number of Christians in the world, the western world got the highest rate of abuse towards women in the world. 

Despite most people believe the Middle Eastern world, treat women the worst, in reality, when it comes to the issue of abuse towards women, women married to Middle Eastern men, are only second most likely to suffer abuse, in comparison to those who married western men. 

According to a survey of Japanese women found, 50% of Japanese women who married western men or have a western boy friend, suffer abuse, with the husband or boy friend demanding for her to be like a slave serving him like a master, while less then 10% of Japanese women who married Japanese men, suffered abuse. And despite our western stereotype believe Asia is a society where the husband is like a King and wife is like a servant, there are simply no real evidence of such. 

Christian women are also lease likely to report abuse, due to the influence of their Christian values.

Once again I would refer to you to this article

NEWS PAPER ARTICLE:

'Submit to your husband' Women told to endure domestic violence in the name of God


Research shows that the men most likely to abuse their wives are evangelical Christians who attend church sporadically. Church leaders in Australia say they abhor abuse of any kind. But advocates say the church is not just failing to sufficiently address domestic violence, it is both enabling and concealing it.

Written by Julia Baird with Hayley Gleeson


ABC News

Despite Islam origin from Christianity and Judaism and there is a western stereotype of people from the Arabic world are much more religion then the rest of the world (whether that stereotype is true, false only partly true is another story), a major difference between Islam and Christianity is that, Islam allows divorce, while Christianity does not. Thus, even if the treatment of a wife in Islamic Koran, is 110% the same to Christian bible. (which is the idea that a wife is the gift from Yahweh and must in all way be submissive) the fact that Islam allows a woman to divorce her husband, mean, it only infer an idea that "you are his all round bitch until you finally decide to dump him", while in Christianity, because it does not allow divorce it mean "you are his all round bitch till he die" 



Cupid's Advice Number 5:

Now, I know, no matter what I tell you, there are still going to be girls out there, which is obsessed with fairy tale romance and obsessed with having a man, so much, she clinch onto a relationship, even if it is abusive, which as a result, maybe even let her true happy relationship and true love, pass her by. 

So, I am going to give, my most important piece of advice, this is not only a good advice for Christian women, but to everybody.

The western world got the most unhealthy dating attitude I have ever seen, since I taken this post. (And consider I have been working this post since the days of ancient Rome, trust me, I've seen a lot) 

So I have to make it very clear.

(A) Just because a girl agree to go out with a guy, it does not mean the two of them are dating

(B) Just because two people are dating, does not mean the two of the are on boy friend and girl friend term

(C) Just because two people are on boy friend and girl friend term, does not mean the two of them are exclusive

(D) Just because two people are exclusive, does not mean the two of them qualify as a couple

(E) Just because two of the qualify as an unwed couple, does not mean they are qualify as married

The biggest problem with the western world is, far too often, when a girl agree to go out with a guy, it infer an idea it is dating, if it is dating, it infer the idea they are now boy friend and girl friend, if it is boy friend and girl friend, it infer the idea that are now a exclusive, if they are exclusive, it infer the idea they are a couple. 

Thank heaven, in the western world there isn't a culture where infer the idea they are a couple, infer the idea they are married. 

Dictionary definition for the term "Couple": 


noun
  1. 1.
    two people or things of the same sort considered together.

    "a couple of girls were playing marbles"

    synonyms:pairduoduologytwosome, set of two, matchMore
  2. 2.
    two people who are married or otherwise closely associated romantically or sexually.

    "in three weeks the couple fell in love and became engaged"

    synonyms:husband and wife, twosomeMore
verb
  1. 1.
    link or combine (something) with something else.

    "a sense of hope is coupled with a palpable sense of loss"

    synonyms:combineintegratemixincorporateaccompanylinkteamassociateconnectally;More
  2. 2.
    mate or have sexual intercourse.

    "as middle-class youth grew more tolerant of sex, they started to couple more often"

(Reference: Google online dictionary)

In other word, a couple is literally a semi-husband and semi-wife, if the two of you have for example been friends for a few years before you start dating that is not much of a problem, but if for example, it is somebody you just met on a blind date...Well, you can see why I say, this is an extremely unhealthy dating culture that need to be changed. And this extremely unhealthy dating culture, combine with the high ratio of girls obsessed with having a man, due to the influence of Christian value, is also contributing to the high rate of abuse towards women, due to girls not able to get involve with more then one guy, at once, without cheating and they fear if they leave the current relationship, they cannot find a new one (and just like most guys that would steal other people's wife are usually not good people, people who would steal other people's semi-wife, you still need to question their morality, not unless, he knows her boy friend is abusive, but, it is not likely for a guy to know about stuff like this, so more likely, the guy who steal a guy's wife or semi-wife, is still a jerk)

Just like only when both the man and the woman that is involved in the relationship (unless you are gay, then you get two dud or two chicks) out of their own free will, in a sound mindset, agree to be married, are they married. 

Otherwise, they are not married

(1) Only when two people involved in the relationship out of their own free will, in a sound mindset, agree to be a couple (semi-husband and semi-wife) are they a couple. 

Otherwise, you are not a couple

(2) Only when two people involve in the relation out of their own free will, in a sound mindset agree to be dating exclusively are they dating exclusively. 

Otherwise you are not dating exclusively, nor are they boy friend and girl friend

(3) Only when two people involve in the relationship out of their own free will, in a sound mindset agree to be on boy friend an girl friend term, are they on boy friend and girl friend term.

Otherwise, you are not on boy friend and girl friend term

(4) Only when both the girl that agree to go out with the guy and the guy asking the girl out, agree for what them to be doing, is dating, is it dating.

Otherwise, it is just two people (maybe friends) hanging out. 



Cupid's advice number 6

Also, you should not let people pressure you into a stage of a relationship you are not comfortable with. So, if you are not ready to be part of a

(1) couple or

(2) boy friend and girl friend or

(3) to be exclusive or

(4) to be on dating term

you should not be force into it, against your will. For guys, it is easier, because we normally play the dominate partner in a relationship with a girl, so, it is harder to pressure us that way. But girls, you should not be pressure into a stage of a relationship, you are not ready for either.

In the west, because, we live in a culture that infer an idea, 
girl agree to go out with a guy 

dating
=
boy friend and girl friend
=
exclusive
=
couple

even if it is somebody you just met on a blind date. 

It is advice that, if you are not ready to move to the couple stage with somebody or any stage of a relationship with somebody, you must make it clear, right from the beginning e.g. upon agreeing to go out with a guy make it clear that "Yes, I agree to go out with you, but just as a friend, it is not a date and not boy friend and girl friend, it is just two friends who like each other very much and wants to get to know each other better hanging out and unless one day, we agree for it to be more then just friends hanging out and be more then just friends, only then, is it a date and boy friend and girl friend" 


Because, once you agree to go exclusive, if you date somebody else, it is call "cheating". I won't recommend anybody looking for a serious relationship, to go exclusive with somebody they know for less then one year. Especially girls, who will hesitate leaving a relationship, due to the fear of been single. 

I would recommend you to get to know them none exclusively first.

But a piece of advice, guys usually expect sex, after dating for a while. So, if you are a girl, unless you are willing to have sex with the guy, don't give him any boy friend and girl friend or dating committeement, otherwise, without yourself knowing it, you are stringing him along. 

If you are not ready to have sex with the guy, just get to know him as a friend.


Cupid's Advice Number 7

Socialize, Socialize, Socialize

This only apply to people who are looking for a serious relationship and it applies to both boys and girls. Go out and socialize with more people of opposite gender.

I always tell people who can't find a boy friend or girl friend, in their dreams. The best way, to get a successful relationship, is not to try too hard finding a boy friend or girl friend. Instead, go out and socialize with people, especially of the opposite gender. For example, if you are university student, go join a club, with people of your similar interest. You like Tai Chi? Join a Tai Chi club. You like hiking? Join a hiking club. You like music? Join a music club. There, get to know more people and get to make new friends. Then, there amount the friends you make, maybe there is a guy/girl you like and he/she like you too. Then if you are both single, maybe after you know each other a bit better, you can become more then just friends. Even if both of you are seen somebody else, unless either one of you are married, you can still be friends, get to know each other a bit better, then, if things don't work out between you and your current boy friend/girl friend and you two broke up and thing doesn't  work out between him/she and his/her current boy friend/girl friend and they broke up, now you are both single, then if the two of you like to, you two can become more then just friends.

In fact, it is proven couple that started off as

(1) just friends and then become more then just friends or

(2) Started off as a casual none exclusive relationship, but later turn serious and exclusive or

(3) friends with benefits turning into a real couple

are way more likely to be in a happy relationship and a happy marriage then those who enter a serious relationship with a guy/girl, with a guy they barely know, due to wanting to enter a serious relationship (unless you got the correct expert help) and despite, there are no study, here, it is common sense to assume, more likely for the girl to ended up in an abusive relationship, also.

(PS: And this is for the guys, it has been well proven by experts in picking up girls, the best way to pick up chicks, is not to actually pick up chicks, but to socialize and befriend women you are attracted to. Because, just because you are attracted to a girl, does not mean, she is attracted to you, so she would turn you down. But if it is just socializing, then, she might be interest in socializing with you, as just friends. Then you have a chance to become more then just friends, with her.)


Cupid's Advice Number 8

When the relationship has run its course and is coming to an end, you need to learn letting go. Too often I see amount Christians, both men and women, they can't let go. 

Remember, if it is meant to be your's, it is meant to be your's, you can't run from it, even if you try. If it isn't meant to be your, it isn't meant to be your, forcing it, would only cause harm to yourself and those you love. Strive for what you want and desire, but don't be obsessed with it.

It is very important that, before you start dating, you need to learn to let go.

(And I know it isn't easy. I myself is a bit as a hoarder, so maybe we all need to learn, to let go, a bit better.) 

Cupid's Advice number 9

Remember, if it is not meant to be

(1) A break up is better then a divorce

(2) An early break up is better then a late break up

(3) An early divorce is better then a late divorce

(4) breaking up or divorce before there are kids, is better then breaking up or divorce, after there are kids.

So, break up and divorce should not be consider as a bad thing, when you are with the wrong person, it is a cause for celebration! :D


Cupid Advice Number 10

This, is more of an advice for the government. The current policy of protecting women from abuse, is seriously flawed. It is dominated by political correctness insanity, which cause more problem then it resolve and frequently, is contributing to women, become victim of abuse. Radical reform is required, to the law and policy and policy maker must face the issue of how bible value, is contributing greatly to the rate of abuse towards women, considering the huge number of Christians in the western world and need to stop following flawed theories, when it comes to making policies to protect women from abuse

As it is said in Sun Tuz Arts of War, when you done your homework of understanding the situation and it is done correctly, you got a better chance of winning. If you don't do your homework of understanding the situation before hand, you are lease likely to win. If you did your homework of understanding the situation, but you done it incorrectly and all your homework answers are wrong, you got no chance of winning.

The current theory in regards to the issue of abuse towards women, use by politicians are mostly the feminist theory of sexism and sometime the idea of "west treat women well and none west treat women like crap" also got an influence, but both these series have been proven wrong. (And that is why today, there is such thing call Post feminism, because feminism have in many arena been proven wrong)

Feminism took inspiration from marxism believe of continue struggle between class, to the same extend they also believe in the continue struggle between gender. It is more about, rebelling against the problematic traditional western view of how women are been treated, but by doing so, more often then less, they also created another set of problem, which otherwise, also suppress women. 

The concept of continue struggle between gender is flaw, to the same extend of the belief of, continue struggle between class, as we seen, it circumstance base, some company the employer and employee are always on each other's throat, but in other company, such thing don't exist and they can work together as a team, more like a family. In some dictatorship country such as Colonel Gaddafi dictatorship Syria, saw struggle between ruling class and people, but in Saudi Arabia, the people love their King and the King rule to the interest of its people. 

Feminism, a lot of time, is about rebelling, against problematic traditional western view of the treatment of women, for example, it say a women must wed, even if it is an abusive relation, so feminists say "A woman should remain unwed" 

Post feminism, take a step back and say "A woman must wed is wrong, but feminist saying a woman should remain unwed is also wrong. She should do as she please, which is either wed or unwed"

The true issue of gender inequality, is due to, people failing to change with time. For example, in cave men time, due to men been stronger and women weaker, things work better if men do the external chores and women do the domestic chores and sometime, it might even become necessary, but as time change, as such way of doing thing, is no longer needed, they don't change with it and when there is a need to do things differently, they still refuse to change, causing much problem. And most of the time, sexism, is a product of such.

For the western world, it is also the influence of the Christian bible, which teach some very problematic ideals. 


Working on flaw theories about issue of domestic abuse, is, doing your homework, but got the wrong answer, therefore, we got no chance of winning in dealing with abuse towards women issue and our policies only create more problems, then it resolve.

Right now, it is actually causing more women to become victim of abuse. In term of detail, please watch this video by Dr. Helen Hunt from the United States



As for how the policies should reform, a lot more work is required, including new academic studies into the issue of domestic abuse in the western world. 




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